1. Going to Grandma’s house because there’s nothing to eat at your house.
“Going to Grandma’s house ‘just because,’ and realizing that it’s because there’s no food at your house and grandma wants to make sure you’ve eaten dinner.”
2. Seeing your mom walk in the door with a box of food that you know she had to beg people for.
“Rich kids can never understand the pain, humiliation, helplessness, and sadness of seeing your mom walk in the door with a box of food that you know she had to beg for. Thinking about this now makes me upset still, but when I was a kid it was a fact of life that I was too young to embrace the burden off. Times like that made me grow up way too fast. While other kids might’ve just complained and bitched about frivolous shit, seeing my mother go through that really left me feeling upset and helpless.”
3. No Christmas.
“That Santa doesn’t visit some kids.”
4. Pretending you’re not even hungry.
“Pretending you’re not even hungry and that’s why you’re not eating lunch.”
5. How eating shit food and living in a shit place makes you feel like shit and how hard it can be to break out of that.
“How being poor drains you of motivation and self-respect, and makes opportunities harder to take. How eating shit food and living in a shit place makes you feel like shit and how hard it can be to break out of that.
People who have always been rich have never felt that, so they assume that being poor is just the same as being rich without having money, and that if they were ever poor they would just work their way out of it while remaining chipper. But it’s not that easy, having no money is insidious and it affects your whole outlook and personality.
On a more positive note, how once you get some money you have an iron determination to never be poor again, which can make you work harder and better than the rch kids. Being poor can also give you respect for the value of money, and stops you wasting it.
Also, when I was poor I was somehow closer to the people who I lived around. We were poor together and we partied together in squats with out of date cider.”
6. Adding water to an empty shampoo bottle to get more shampoo.
“Adding water to an empty shampoo bottle to get more shampoo.”
7. When you turn 16 you don’t get a car, you just get to be 16.
“That when you turn 16 you don’t get a car, you just get to be 16.”
8. Ketchup sandwich. Adding water to milk.
“Ketchup sandwich. Adding water to milk. Only getting new toys on your birthday or Xmas, usually from another family member such as uncle or grand parent. .49 cent hamburger day (which turns to days) at McDonald’s.”
9. Trying to cook and serve dinner loud enough to cover up the sound of your mom crying in her bedroom because she can’t afford to pay the electricity this month.
“Trying to cook and serve dinner loud enough to cover up the sound of your mom crying in her bedroom because she can’t afford to pay the electricity this month. Putting on a cheerful face and acting super chipper for your younger siblings. Walking five miles round-trip to buy groceries because your mom can’t afford a car or the bus. Having to pack everything you’ve ever owned into two bags, trying to decide what portions of your life can go in the garbage can, because your landlord died and your family got evicted.”
10. Sharing one McDonald’s milkshake with your five brothers and dad.
“What it’s like to be hungry and yet so poor that the only thing your mom could make you for dinner is a ketchup sandwich using free ketchup packets taken from McDonald’s from that one time that she scraped enough loose change to buy 1 milkshake for you and your 5 brothers for doing good in school. Remember how she made you guys take turns sipping from it so that everyone could get some but you guys weren’t allowed to finish it because you had to save some for when Dad came home? You don’t remember, do you? I do. That was my life growing up.”
11. Drinking sugar water to stay alive.
“Drinking sugar water to stay alive. Showering at the middle school because the water was shut off. Mayo and mustard sandwiches. Over eating at the pizza place my sister worked at because that would be our only meal for the day. Being SO excited to be able to spend TWO WHOLE DOLLARS at the dollar store. “Omg omg. Do I get 2 toys or 2 candies or a toy AND a candy?!” And so, so many other things. I had to explain to my SO early in our relationship that not everyone buys perm tags for their license plates, and that poor people renew them every